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Lesson 14: Find Your Soul-Medicine ✨

♥ Part of the Series 35 Lessons at 35 Years of Life

With a commitment for bite-sized + deliberate action today, tomorrow, and every day, I keep putting one foot in front of the other to create what I believe in—Intentional Justice


Soul Medicine (v.)

 ✨ an experience or action to be present with your essence or inner knowing ✨

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As I shared in Lesson 11: You are the Mama (Guardian) of Your Soul, the “simple act to try something new led to my first commitment to my own personal dose of soul medicine.”

Acupuncture :: my first dose of soul medicine

A mind, body, and soul connection similar to that of being on the basketball court, my first love and physical soul medicine. Unlike basketball, acupuncture is an opportunity to lie still and simply listen. Listen to the swirling wonder in my thoughts, a curiosity to hone-in on the themes rising up and asking to have a seat at the table. Then a stillness that comes from simply noticing. Scanning the mind and body for what’s asking to be heard.

This is how I experience acupuncture—a tool to my inner knowing. Now let me be clear when I began this journey, this was not what I imagined experiencing. Instead, I had a goal for a specific outcome—”a dream to slowly and methodically decrease my bipolar medication because one thing was for certain–I did not want that medicine in my body when I conceived.” (shared in Lesson 11)

That’s the “quality of consciousness” I brought to this action. As shared in Oprah’s new book, The Wisdom of Sundays,

An intention is a quality of consciousness that you bring to an action. ~Gary Zukav

While I have unconsciously lived this wisdom for years, it wasn’t until I began noticing a theme being reflected back to me—the intentionality I bring to everything I do—that my goals shifted to intentions.

Intentional Justice™ IS…

…Your Personal Soul Medicine

Intention is everything. Goals are attainable.

Only YOU know the quality of your consciousness.

This, the heart of Intentional Justice™—bite-sized + deliberate daily action today, tomorrow, every day!

The ironic thing is that I did not set out intending to embark on my own personal journey of seeking justice. It simply began with love, leadership, and trusting my vision for becoming a mama. In doing so, I found the ideal dose of soul medicine to Love Myself like a Mother! with Intentional Justice

My Current Soul Medicine

Let me count all the ways I love to feed by heart and soul. Here are just a handful of my favs…

  • Writing
  • Walking the dog
  • QT with my daughter and wife (together and 1-on-1)
  • Scandal or Empire
  • Laughter
  • Dancing
  • The sun
  • Organic + whole-as-possible yummy food with libation as a bonus!
  • Family adventures

The later, family adventure is what resets me for The Lovelution as I continue to seek Intentional Justice™ (bite-sized + deliberate action) in my daily life when things can feel like a struggle in the juggle. 

From our recent November adventures…

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This family adventure candid sums up my “sol” medicine

Day of Gratitude

Thanksgiving 2017

Family Tradition: Hiking

Family Tradition: Hiking

Listening to Your Heart

We all need a reason to come home…

A place to be our authentic self or at the very least to put our best foot forward as we take bite-sized + deliberate action to feed our souls.

  • What if, all you needed was space to listen to your heart?
  • What if, you were your own fuel?
  • What if, you committed to improving the quality of your consciousness by investing in YOU?

There’s no need to keep wondering because I’m answering the call I felt nearly 5 years ago when I set a powerful intention to listen to my heart about how I wanted to feel.

I’m thrilled to share that I’m in the process of creating The Soul-Medicine Sisterhood. A virtual collective that feeds your soul for The Lovelution—a journey to self to lead with love + revolution in your life + career + community. This is how we achieve justice in our lives, or better yet Intentional Justice™ Because…

We all need a reason to come home…

A place to love ourselves the way we dream and deserve.

This collective will invite you on a monthly journey to tap into your soul medicine by listening and tapping into your own cycle cypher: an invitation to name your Truth, claim your power through the intersectionality of your identity, and accountability to take action in releasing, living, and relearning.

This activates your inner knowing allowing yourself to G R O W as you…

Listen, Love, and Live your Call to Action.

 ✨ Igniting your Own Intentional Justice 

Intentional Justice™ in Your Life

Does the Soul-Medicine Sisterhood sound like your cup of tea or brew or cocktail?

Click here to have your name added to the list of “First to Know” as I share details about this new offering in 2018.

Now it’s your turn, I now invite YOU to consider…

  • What feeds your soul?
  • How does this Soul Medicine assist you in tapping into your inner knowing?
  • What resonates with you when you consider the “Soul Medicine” in your life?

?Please share your thoughts below in the comments ?

It’s one way YOU can take bite-size + deliberate action TODAY!

In lovelution ?

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Lesson 13: Riding the Wave—Trust & Surrender ?✨?

Riding the wave…

As I flow with mama ocean

It’s an invitation to reset

There’s nothing like it

She calls to let go…

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As I emerge from the undertow of my third rotation around the sun as a mama celebrating my rebirth and the birth of my daughter, Jaylin, the surge of downloads feels familiar. My creative juices as I birth what I dreamed of 3 years ago, when the stage was truly being set. While I can recount the baby steps before, all changed in an insist when my water broke on our living room floor. When hours before we were at an Oprah & Friends weekend manifesting our vision of the “Life You Want.”

img_1947In the first installment of my birth story, Live The Life You Want Series || Part 1: Our Then ❤ Nearing our Due Date, I shared the inspiring and transformational 48-hours leading up to the start of my daughter and me’s birth story. Sadly, I got caught in the undertow of being a new mama and dropped the ball on sharing the rest of the series as I envision despite the pieces drafted. All this is to say that I continue to work on a version of my daughter and me’s birth story to capture the beauty of its unfolding. As I do, what remains my unwavering Truth is the dance to trust and surrender because this life and journey of Intentional Justice is truly about riding the wave ?

The Birth of 3 Essential Qs

  1. How do you ride the wave?
  2. Where does trust come in?
  3. When are you able to surrender to the rhythm that is both within and outside of your control?

These are the essential questions I have been unintentionally exploring during the last 3-5 years. Or at the very least, “Riding the Wave” is the metaphor of how I have experienced the last 3-5 years in many ways. Every time I think the starting point for my personal Lovelution journey was the day Jaylin arrived earthside on Tuesday, November 18, 2014. The reality is that it began much earlier than that Fall day.

The day we conceived? No. Earlier than that. The day you decided to start trying to conceive. No. Earlier than that. So, when did it begin?

The day that set me on my path was 14 years ago on Thursday, October 9, 2003, I had left IAD for BHM heading to the then AAHPERD Student Leadership Conference. The kindling for the lovelution that was to ignite. It was at a high ropes course in Jackson’s Gap, AL that my now wife and I would become trust-building partners. While this was the kindling for our love story, for the brevity of this post, I’ll simply say, “And, the rest is history!” ?

However, what’s SO clear now is this experience in which love and leadership would collide creating a revolution in my life. I still pinch myself that this is how I / we found one another and the spark of our love. At the heart of this journey to find revolutionary love that would then ignite our dreams to become moms is a story all about trusting (myself and then my wife) and surrendering to a process.

It’s only now that after years of inner personal development work for which I can name and claim the identity of a love leader riding the waves of this beautiful, messy life. And with each day, I get clearer on what change and uncertainty mean in the everyday. This reality of riding the wave of Justice is also at the heart of Intentional Justice™—bite-sized + deliberate daily action—a term I conceptualized when it was reflected back to I the intentionality I put towards my life.

Ride the Wave ? A Contraction Mantra

Ride the Wave. This was the simple and powerful mantra my midwife-in-training provided as she rocked her Angela Davis T and the rest of the team slept in anticipation of what would later unfold over the next 24+ hours (the power of not knowing the end result).

As I began to move into the depth of my animal state, it made perfect sense. Ride the wave.

Letting what I was feeling wash over and through me as I gave myself permission to open up. Ride the wave.

I swaying and rolling my hips on a birth ball. Ride the wave.

It was here that I first considered what it truly meant to sit on top of a wave. To experience crescendo, reaching the climax of the contraction that felt more intense than the one before. Far from pleasurable, in fact, taking my breath away and inviting I to trust + surrender. Ride the wave.

This climax signaled that I had reached the apex of the opening and that my body was inviting me to ride the wave down to then rest. This is when I learned to fall asleep during contractions. A skill I perfected by births end. Another opportunity to trust + surrender to what was to come. Ride the wave.

3 Years Later: Here’s what I know…

The stories we tell ourselves are our perceptions of our subjective reality.

Add another person, another character, another human being, and your perception can shift like a wave with the added perspective.

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Here’ the perspective I shared on the day after celebrating our BIRTH-day…

3 Years of Motherhood ‼️

It’s feels like I’m crossing a threshold…

Out of the fog and back into the light ?

My baby is no longer such…

Now a courageously BOLD 3 year old ??

I no longer a new mama…

Confident in the dance to trust + surrender…

I’ve got this! It’s all about riding the wave ?

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This is what I know about riding the wave: when you make love infused choices, it leads to powerful intentions.

Recently, I found myself navigating the swell of gratitude for restorative sleep and waking up to how I wanted to feel on this particular day. I had met my ideal amount, 10-10.5 hours, and I could feel the difference. It felt good considering the night before I had only gotten 4.5 hours at best and I knew the hard Truth that I had just shared in Lesson 12: Sleep is the Best Medicine that I had chosen to push through instead of letting go. However, I was unable to fight the fire I felt inside to share over taking care of myself, which is at the heart of my personal and biz mantra to Love Yourself like a Mother! with Intentional Justice

Does that make me a failure? Or a hypocrite? I chose to think, “No way!” I am simply human.

This is a layer of the wave. Owning that you can hold a belief or idea and know that you’re off the mark from achieving or fully living that ideal reality. The wave is a reminder of the transition. That it takes repetition to understand the rhythm around you and most importantly, the rhythm of your soul.

This is the clarity I gained when I embraced my own personal Lovelution: A Mindset Shift. As I shared 3 years ago,

What began as the traditional tasks of “nesting” (e.g. reorganizing closets and space to make room for the newest member of our family) has become clearing out the emotional and psychological “clutter” that are associated with the various dimensions of both my personal and social identity. This is where the raw emotions of self-doubt, hurt, resistance, abandonment, and pain have surfaced leaving me to wonder if I’m truly cut out for motherhood and/or entrepreneurship.

Fast forward to now, I can unequivocally say that this mindset shift along with the groundwork that came before was the mental preparation I needed to ground me in riding the various waves I’ve risen during the last 36 months and beyond.

Intentional Justice™ in Your Life

Now it’s your turn, as I now invite YOU to consider 3 Essential Qs of Riding the Wave:

  • How do you ride the wave?
  • Where does trust come in?
  • When are you able to surrender to the rhythm that is both within and outside of your control?

?Please share your thoughts below in the comments ?

It’s one way YOU can take bite-size + deliberate action TODAY!

In lovelution ?


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? Thank You, Pat Summitt! ? ?You are One in a Million?

I am one of thousands, if not millions of girls…Pat Summitt_SI Cover

Who dreamed of playing for Pat Summitt.

Deep sadness for a legend lost too soon.

While I did not personally know Pat as friend, daughter, or mama, her impact on my life is no less powerful.  It was the gift of her book, Reach for the Summit: The Definite Dozen System for Succeeding at Whatever You Do, that was a turning point in my life.

Typing that one sentence brings tears to my eyes as my mind takes a flashback down memory lane of the journey traveled since opening those first pages of a memoir meets coaching manual. In fact, it ignited the dream of becoming a Sport Psychologist and Women’s Basketball Coach.

The year was 1998. I was a high school student-athlete in my junior year on track for a full-ride scholarship until a season-ending ACL injury crippled the chances of Division I offers.

Now these career dreams feel like a past life, so let’s travel back to December 1998 to get a glimpse of my passion and mindset at the time through the poem I wrote called Tennessee:

The court is where I dream to be,

   once there I would be free.

Free like a bird,

   who flies South every winter.

This special place holds a compartment in my heart,

   which is an athletic showcase of art.

Art as in Michelangelo or Da Vinci,

   yet in the form of courage, speed, talent, or just pure love of the game.

Love of the game,

   what a simple aim.

Aim or reach for a goal, a dream,

   in my case I’m reaching for the Summit.

To reach the highest point you ask, what would that be?,

   to attend the University of Tennessee.

Tennessee’s orange court,

    where I could play my sport.

Sport would get me to that ultimate court where I dream to be,

    once there I would finally be free.

This poem takes me right back to my 16-year-old self. I can feel my passion for the sport I loved—basketball. What’s more, I am fascinated with the self-awareness I had at the time to acknowledge the opportunity the sport provided I to access a private education that was expanding my capacity to draw parallels between my journey and those I was reading in the classroom, studying in films, or exploring on my own.

What follows is snapshot of the essay that followed Tennessee:

Seven years ago (1991), I began to play the sport of basketball. In the beginning, it was just something to do, but now it has turned into much more. It’s my “open road” or “river” that will lead me to wherever I wish to go.  

When I step onto the court with a ball in my hands all of my stresses, anxieties, and fears just roll away like beads of water cleaning a dirty back. I’m away, free from civilization like Huck was on the river or Thelma and Louise was on the open road. When I am on my 94 X 50 ft space, I have the freedom to be creative, show emotion, and have fun.  

Although to many it seems like just a game, it is my vehicle that will take me where I want to go.  The first stop was when I traveled to cities like Hampton, Va; Chicago, Ill; and Las Vegas, NV. Through basketball and the place where I find peace I was able to travel to cities unknown to me. This was very exciting to a 16-year-old who enjoys exploring unknown places. This is not the only stop I plan to take, next stop: college. Isn’t that amazing? I have the opportunity to receive a college education by playing the sport I love. I hope college is not my last stop in the long road-trip of life. I believe that it will take me to other places, people, and things that are unknown to me so that I will continue to grow as a person.

All the work I have done and continue to do with my rehabilitation and the challenges I have faced on my road of life has forced me to build character.

It seems everyone has a place where they can find peace and be free from civilization. For Huck it was the river, for Thelma and Louise it was the open road, and for me, it is the basketball court. I think Thelma, Louise, and Huck did not know this is how they were going to find peace.  Both began their adventure running away from civilization and their responsibilities, and as time went on it became their spiritual journey.  Me on the other hand, I started playing the game of basketball for fun and for something to do, but now it is my way to enter my special world and get away from civilization.  I find it hard to look at the game as if every time I step onto the basketball court I am looking to go farther in my spiritual journey.  On the other hand, though, I think the relaxation and peace I feel on the court allows me to grow as a person off the court.

Although it may take some people longer than others to find their special place,  I think it is important for everyone to find peace and serenity for themselves.  

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After a handful of readings of the above, I am left asking myself the question:

Where do I find peace to be free from civilization now?

While a ball in my hands on a basketball court still has the same calming effect that it did 18 years ago, my places have expanded to include meditation, writing, hoping on my bike, going out into nature, and the list goes on. While having a place to find peace is important, what I can see so clearly now that was harder then…

Peace comes from within.

Peace comes from knowing yourself.

Peace comes from loving yourself.

Peace begins with YOU!

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Can you recall a passion that feels like a lifetime ago? What is it?

Do YOU yearn to return to it?

Or how do YOU now find peace and serenity in the “crazy” of our world?

I’d love to know, so please leave your thoughts in the comments below 🙂

Much love. Be love. Beloved.

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Thank YOU Pat Summitt for your strength, courage, and mystic that inspired this young girl to reach for the summit! Your reach and impact lives on through the millions of lives YOU have touched through your gift of teaching and coaching ?  Rest in peace.