Tag: Desire Map

Molding My Mama Mindset


As you sleep in my right arm so soundly while resting your hand gently on mine, our 10 months together feels like an eternity and yet it’s truly just the beginning. The gift of each breath you take inflates my desire to love you with every cell of my body the only way i know how–completely and forever. Our journey as mother and daughter has already had its ups and downs (I’m sure nothing from the contrary that many first-time mamas experience: a painful latch, trusting your instinct over the various baby books [don’t get me wrong, these are still valuable resources!], why all the prep for birth with little talk of post-partum, and the list could go on…) and yet I wake up each day ready to start anew. 

~ Love, Your Mama

My ? Compass (or Core Desired Feelings)
While uncertainty was a constant during my Mama Sabbatical™ and the wild journey of conception, pregnancy, labor, and Jaylin’s birth, my core desired feelings (aka CDFs) have been my heart’s compass that I return to daily (often multiple times throughout). First it begins with asking myself, “How do YOU want to feel today?” And then, I’m reminded of my CDFs and repeat them to myself like a prayer or mantra of my own Love, Justice, & Freedom. My favorite days are when my wife asks me the same question as a way to guide our adventure for that day.

Currently, my core desired feelings are: Bliss, Wonder, Lovelution, Luminous Liberty & Courageously Bold. Just like the shift in season, I feel a desire to dive back into the process. It could be the nostalgia of preparing for Jaylin’s birth just a year ago, the impending milestone of the one year mark, or the knowing that I want to show up for YOU and our fellow mamas* to engage in meaningful inquiry that matters. And in doing so, allowing me to take on the day and the world with a Mama Mindset and feel all my CDFs!

Molding a Mama Mindset

MAMA MINDSET :: the state of mind needed to embrace, conquer, and thrive while juggling motherhood with love, compassion, empathy, and humor as the struggle is REAL!

It begins with YOU and YOUR ?’s desire for Goals with Soul with Mosaic of Identity and 5 Life Areas:

  1. 3MDM Oct 2015_Retreat ImageLIVELIHOOD & LIFESTYLE

And then, YOU ask yourself :: How do I want to feel?

What are your CDF’s               (Core Desired Feelings?

Discover them HERE.

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A New Day: Guided by My Desired Feelings…


 Our emotions need to be as educated as our intellect.

It is important to know how to feel, how to respond,

and how to let life in so that in can touch you.

~ Jim Rohn

And, I’m back!

I never really left. I simply took an emotional and intellectual break to dig deeper into what I truly desire in life as it relates to being a citizen of the world, a small business owner, a working professional graduate student, wife, daughter, sister, and friend.

Since the start of 2013, I have been educating my emotions by focusing on my desired feelings. In particular, I have found myself exploring the hopes and dreams of my soul in The Desire Map. What is that you ask?

Everything we do is driven by the desire to feel a certain way.

…We need to make our feelings the heart of the matter.


Based on this idea, The Desire Map is a multimedia guide to what you want the most. In addition to this self-guided exploration, I took a course entitled, “The Business of Being an Artist,” as well as attended a 2-day workshop on Right-Brain Business Planning. The 8 months of contemplating such pursuits was a priceless opportunity to reflect, learn, and grow that resulting in me completing the Jillybeads 4 Justice business plan along with a visual one for inspiration.

Say what…you launched your business without a complete business plan?!

Yes, I did and I’m proud of the fact that I’m no longer part of the 70% of businesses that start without one. From the beginning, this venture has been a leap of faith (see Why I Started a Business) as I use my true and gained gifts to inspire and implement my passions in a tangible way. What’s clear to me now that was more vague then was that if I continued giving my gifts to someone else’s vision of “changing the world” and “making a difference” that I would remain stuck and feeling like a passive citizen. Those that know me would agree that staying in one place or being inactive are not traits that would be used to describe me. And so, I choose to follow my vision and desire feelings as I continue on this journey.

As a result of this personal and professional inquiry, here’s what you can come to expect:

  • Advocacy: I will show support for the causes I believe to be social justice issue and recommend simple while timely ways you too can show your support.
  • Education: I believe when providing a recommendation, it’s also your responsibility to inform. Though cognizant of my bias I choose to use them as my lens in seeing the world.
  • Accessorizing: A new piece bi-weekly (on the 1st and 3rd Monday of the month) that will include the bead’s story, my inspiration for the piece, or highlight my creative practices.

Simply put, I am excited to be on this journey and to share it will you. Tomorrow’s the day of something new—I’ll be sharing the first new piece, so stayed tuned…

CALL 2 ACTION: Inspired to consider your desired feelings?! You should as…

Desire is the engine of creation.
Feelings are your road signs.
Desire mapping is how to get where you want to go.

For more information, go here.