What’s one bite-sized action can you take today?
What can YOU do to shift what’s not working?
What advice would you give your 25 year old self?
These are the questions I have been pondering since culling this lesson in reflection of 35 Lessons at 35 Years of Life. The blog post that started as a birthday reflection and expanded to my own personal writing challenge and outline for my next 35 posts as I shed light on Mama J’s path of Intentional Justice™ one Tuesday at a time…
Now back to those questions, if I’m to start with the later, this is what I would say to a 25-year-old Jillian…
Advice to My 25-Year-Old Self
You already know who you are.
Enjoy the journey because you’re simply gaining the Truths for you!
Your love is limitless.
First, though you must learn to trust + surrender.
How to show up and ride YOUR wave.
You do NOT need another degree or more school.
Being in the trenches is where the work happens.
The growth. The resistance. Unearthing your TRUTH.
The journey has really just begun. What came before was merely preparation for life’s test of how bad do you want the dream.
Oh, and lay off the credit cards, it can wait! As Danielle LaPorte confirmed, when asked the same question at White Hot Truth – SF on Friday, June 19th at Grace Cathedral.
Making Shifts to Create Waves
The biz I launched 5 years ago when I turned 30 is not the one I am focused on now. From Jillybeads 4 Justice to Mama J Love Consulting, each tweak, twist, and turn on the path has created a ripple effect that leaves me in awe of what’s possible with changing your beliefs, doing the less sexy work of healing the inner girl that knows she’s only just began to show the world what she brings leaving a legacy for her daughter to build upon.
To do so, I believe in ripping off the band-aid and starting with 2 tough questions:
- What’s not working?
- What can I do to shift this?
Here’s an example I found while letting go of some Jillybeads materials over the weekend…
A reminder of how far I’ve come and the work that continues to claim my mamapreneur status and all I dream about. 5 years ago I was focused on getting my original jewelry into the world (aka selling it beyond friends and family) while supporting the organizations I care about the most at the local, national, and international level. This the essence of my then business–Jillybeads 4 Justice. Fast forward to now, the biz I’m running has evolved into a consulting firm that has been under construction (aka trial and error) since my last formal job/position ended as an educational researcher at the beginning of my third trimester in September 2014. This life change radically shifted my mindset on the brink of a second life change, becoming a mama.
While many lose themselves in motherhood, I ultimately, found myself in the process.
These lessons and the stories it will unearth is the beginning of telling this story.
Creating Intentional Justice™
By asking myself those 2 tough questions then and now, I can illuminate known data to inform my decisions and move forward with integrity. In other words, what’s one bite-sized + deliberate action you (or I) can take today? Tomorrow? Every day?
This question is the heart of Intentional Justice™
While answering this question for myself, I jotted some intentions for the week ahead, this summer (what I’ve dubbed #LovelutionSummer17), and by the start of 2018, I kept it down to 5 goals / intentions are less.
Why? Because if you can break your desire, goal, or intention into multiple steps then it’s likely too big. Start small. Easier said than done. I know because the dreamer in I longs for more in less time, which can and does lead to tying to do too many things in an unrealistic timeframe. That said, I’m still on this journey with you to refine and get better with bite-sized and deliberate daily action.
What does bite-sized look like in an area of our life? I immediately go to food, so let’s think about this together. One bite of pizza instead of the whole slice. A mini bowl of ice cream instead of the entire pint. Giving your loved one the last bite, you know the best bite you’ve been saving for yourself. Now let’s apply this to your life.
Take 5 minutes now (or after you finish reading this post) to “dreamstorm” all the ways you’d like to take action (aka do something for good) to feel Love, Justice, and Freedom in your life today, next week, or the next 3-6 months?
I highly recommend setting a timer either on your phone if you’re on the go or on the stove if you’re at home. Allow yourself to truly dream without holding yourself back. At the end of time, notice how much more time you could use to finish writing what has surfaced and add that to the clock to finish your Dreamstorm of Action.
Now use this list to pick your Top 3 or Top 5 max that you will focus on in the coming days, weeks, and months to come. This is what I’ll be doing to start where I am. Will you join me?
If so, tell me in the comments what step you’ll be taking. Plus, if you’d like more lessons like these to join the tribe of Justice Warriors + Revolutionary Seekers below…