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Thoughts on Charlottesville

Because it must be said…
Because your words and actions matter…
Because it’s not business as usual…

Despite peacefully falling asleep with JJ last night, I was startled awake. I was called to read the various perspectives, to take note of who has spoken and who chooses to remain 😶 Then I couldn’t sleep.

I share this not to guilt or shame you into action, yet simply to publicly share your words and actions matter. I’m leaning into my own Privilege that I get to still sit with my feelings without the need to offer an age-appropriate explanation to my daughter. While knowing that eventually the day will come.

And, I am angry. Yep, an angry Black woman in 2017! Not because of inequity and injustice. That’s obvi by now, right?! The Truth is that the anger is built-up frustration that many of the white folks I love and care about, who say they love and care about Jaylin, myself, and our mixed-raced family, continue to remain silent against the white supremacy that’s now out in the open.

There is no perfect response. You will fumble. You will make mistakes. You will feel uncomfortable. It’s okay. Welcome to club. This is where growth and change begins and continues. Your words and actions matter.

Feel stuck? Reach out. You can contact Mama J at
Click here for resources on How to Stand Up for Racial Justice Resources.
This is where the dialogue begins…

Lesson 5: Create What YOU Believe In

♥ Part of the Series 35 Lessons at 35 Years of Life 

With a commitment for bite-sized + deliberate action today, tomorrow, and every day that I keep putting one foot in front of the other to create what I believe in.

I never imagined being the one to second-guess myself at the 99th hour, yet my worse-case-scenario became reality. We were just over a week away from my two scheduled workshops back in my hometown with only a handful of registered participants. In fact, I was ready to throw in the towel and postpone. So much so that I reached out to my collaborators and asked this, “Tough Q: Do you feel we should still proceed ahead?”

Even so, this is what I truly believed and shared with them, “I stand in this truth: At the end of the day, I know in my heart the right peeps will be in the room and feeling a bit uncertain…”

Even re-typing that I squirm at my resistance as I trail off with uncertainty. Nonetheless, I persisted. The learning in that lesson is for another post…wink, wink 😉 Today’s lesson is about making something out of nothing as the adage goes. Trusting while being lifted up that what you value matters. That there’s a space and place and the right folks ready to grow with you.

However, full transparency. The above was not clear until now, nearly two and half months later. Even as I write this I’m reminded of how far I’ve come in 3-5 years.

You know that favorite interview question: Where do you see yourself in 3 (to/or 5) years?

As I shared in 35 Lessons at 35 Years of Life:

When I turned 30 (in 2012) I launched my first biz—Jillybeads 4 Justice—to pursue my passion for jewelry-making and justice. It was the result of wanting to take a leap in owning the reality that I too, like the organizations I had been employed by, needed to diversify my income streams. To say it has been a journey would be an understatement, more like a roller coaster with all it’s twist and turns and moments of hanging by a thread.

With this perspective, I can more clearly see now that my professional path has been one of continued learning and self-discovery to embrace the intersections of my multi-passion spirit and zones of genius as a love leader, equity + inclusion consultant, and data goddess.

It’s at these intersections that I know I can and will bring my vision and mission wrapped into one to life for each of us to Love Yourself like a Mother! with Intentional Justice™ ♥

📸: @micaymj “Heartland Values” by Sue Kalicki at Nebraska Community Foundation

This is the heart and soul of Mama J. Love Consulting.

It’s with a commitment for bite-sized + deliberate action today, tomorrow, and every day that I keep putting one foot in front of the other to create what I believe in.

Will YOU Join Me?

Lesson 4: The Water Calls Me

Part of the Series: 35 Lessons at 35 Years of Life

If you have a toddler or older, it’s likely you’ve seen Disney’s Moana at least once. If not, I highly recommend it for many feminist-aligned reasons in spite of Disney’s past. Simply put for brevity, they tackle their princess phenomenon with great one liners, while also honoring the power and importance of our ancestors, storytelling, and honoring one’s truth. As such, it’s on looped repeat at my house in 30-45 minute chunks along with the many of the songs, which are requested for our dance parties or car rides.

In I Am Moana (Song of the Ancestors), Moana states…

Who am I?


I am a girl who loves my island

And the girl who loves the sea, it calls me…

Ditto, Moana! As a girl who grew-up landlocked with the closest body of water a “person-made” pond or at best a lake, I like Moana have loved the sea, it calls me. Even living in Berkeley, CA less than 3 miles from the San Francisco Bay only partially meets my call. So, what’s a girl to do? 

img_4684.jpgHead to the central coast for two weeks of beach therapy to warm-up (there’s a hard truth to the saying, “The coldest winter I ever spent was a summer in San Francisco.”) to rest, rejuvenate, and recharge.



The water calls me…

The water calls my wife…

The water calls my daughter…

The water calls our family!

Why does the water call me?

Here’s what I know for sure… 

img_4222.jpgMama Ocean’s rhythm + flow 

A reminder of the ebb + flow

Our natural rhythm.

As I flow with Mama Ocean

She invites I to reset

There’s nothing like it

Calling me.


In fact, the first opportunity I had to be on the water during my recent Resetting for the Lovelution, I used it to meditate, to sync up with the beautiful rhythm of Mama Ocean. Much surfaced as I rode her waves. Clarity washing over me with rainbow salt water eyes. Dreams rising up while lost in the magic of only being tethered to my boogie board. 

Water has always had this effect on me. An invitation to wash it all away. Reset. Make connection. Called to my Truth. So, I leave you with this to ponder…

Does the water call YOU? If not, what does?

↓  Let me know in the comments below  ↓

In lovelution…


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